Simply The Best

Posted: 24th January 2019

“You’re simply the best, better than all the rest!” – joining in with Tina Turner and belting out this chorus in the car (to cheer myself up one evening this week whilst stuck in traffic) made me start thinking about what ‘best’ really means…

We are all different and, for each child we teach, their ‘best’ will be different too. At Stormont we do not want or expect girls to try to be the best; perfection is virtually unattainable and measuring your achievements against your peers’ produces more negatives than positives; mental health and wellbeing suffer when we feel we are falling behind, or falling short. Sadly, some children’s potential is also capped because of FOF – and fear of failure, potential or real, is debilitating. As CS Lewis wisely said: ‘You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.’

At Stormont we want every girl to do her best. We all have areas of strength as well as things that we are not so good at, and there is so much to be gained from having a go, having fun, joining in, relishing successes, encouraging classmates, congratulating them when things go well and commiserating when they don’t. Trying to give something your best shot, rather than focusing on getting something ‘right’, brings a sense of achievement and real happiness, as well as (counterintuitively) better results in the longer term.

So, if Tina Turner is not quite the ticket, what is? Which song do you think best sums up Stormont? I will be rifling through my CD collection this weekend for inspiration…